The Four Agreements

Don Miguel RuizThe Four Agreements Book CoverSince i had a final today, i turned on the procrastinating cloak and went on with this book “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by “Don Miguel Ruiz”.

This book made me realize what a cynical asshole I am. By being skeptical of people who appear to suck, I am apparently doing a disservice to myself and to the Creator. And by judging myself when I make mistakes, a.k.a. stressing out when I screw up. Actually, by writing this paragraph I have probably put a few more nails in my psychological coffin.

All joking aside, this is a good little book for the cynicist in all of us (in? How about that is?). Parts of it made me angry because they seemed to stress forgiveness over all else — and yeah, I know that’s generally accepted wisdom and all, but sometimes people need more than forgiveness to move on from things in life, like forgiveness and then perpetual avoidance.

The best part of what the author is teaching here is that you should be unfazed by what people say, think, or do, be it positive or negative — even when it’s directed toward you. The thinking behind it is that people do and say things because of their own situations, not yours, so whenever they say something to or about you, it has nothing to do with you. If someone calls you fat, it’s because they are insecure, no matter how much of a blimp you are. If someone says you are awesome, you don’t need to cling to it like a desperate child because, in theory, you knew you were awesome already.

Plus, this takes no time to read. You could finish it in a commute or two and at least feel like you’d thought things over a little, if nothing else. And, granted, I had been having some insecurity issues surrounding my performance at university, and after reading the “Always Do Your Best” chapter on Sunday Night, I proceeded to have a pretty kick-ass day, so there is definitely irrefutable power in the simplicity presented therein.

To summarize

Be Impeccable with Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Rating : 3.5/5

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