CheckList : Things to do before you turn 25

  1. Buy Dinner for Your Parents.
    Buy parents dinner
    Your parents may have been funding your life for years, so now you can experience the joy of repaying their kindness, love, and responsibility, and of developing an adult relationship with them. Taking them out for dinner, and picking up the bill, is one of the ways of doing this.
  2. Travel to another Continent
    Travel to another continent
    Travelling, with the exposure to different climes, cultures, and peoples, broadens the mind, helps develop life skills, and makes for more open attitudes and tolerance. However open-minded you are, there’s nothing like experiencing a different way of life firsthand. It also furnishes you with some great dinner party stories!
  3. Try an Adrenaline Sport.
    Try an adrenaline sport
    You could try sky diving, white water rafting or bungee jumping. Pushing your comfort zone and trying something like this may terrify you, but you’ll feel immensely proud of overcoming your fear.
  4. Spend the Whole Weekend Partying.
    Party all weekend
    Doing an “all weekender” can be more difficult as you get older and have more responsibilities—it’s a great experience to try!
  5. Let Go of a Friendship.
    Learn to let friends go
    Not all friendships are meant to last forever; some come into our lives and exist for different reasons at different times in our life. Holding on to a relationship that has run its course doesn’t do either of you any favors. Quality rather than quantity of friends is the important factor.
  6. Like Yourself.
    Learn to like yourself
    The teen years are for exploring who you are, what you like, and how you tick. Now it’s time to embrace who you are: be proud of the unique self you have become.
  7. Distinguish between a casual fling and the real thing
    Learn to differentiate between a fling and a real thing
    You’re done meeting loser after loser and mistaking Miss Wrong for Miss Right. You’re older and wiser now, and you should know that just because she’s showing a bit of interest doesn’t mean she wants to date you. By 25, you should know if she’s going to stick around the next day and actually call when she says she will, or if she’s just a one-night stand kind of girl—whether you met her at a workplace or in school.Pay attention to the way she treats you when you’re around her friends. A good women won’t change how she acts toward you when other people are around. Does she make time in her schedule just so she can see you? Does she remember the little details? Does she show extra support when you’re having a bad day? These are just a few signs that this girl is a keeper.
  8. Practice Being Charitable.
    Giving is more rewarding than receiving. Consider volunteering at a home for the elderly, or donating a percentage of earnings to a charity that you feel is important. Something as simple as smiling more and being friendlier to the people in your life and strangers that you come across can make a big difference to both you and them.
  9. Let the Grudge Go.
    Let the grudge go
    Holding resentment does more damage to you than anyone else. Let it go. Use your energy for more healthy pursuits.
  10. Go on a Blind Date.
    Go on a blind date 1
    Go on a blind date 2
    Go on a blind date 4
    The excitement, the worry, the unknown outcome—who knows what may come of it? A blind date makes for a great story to tell friends, a learning experience and maybe even a great love.
  11. Exercise.
    Your body is not 18 anymore. All bodies age, and the punishment you might have applied to it in your teens and early twenties by excessive studying, partying, and having a chaotic lifestyle will not be so easy to recover from as you get older.
  12. Learn to “Be”.
    Learn to be
    The Italians have a great word; “Asolare“. It means spending time in a meaningless but delightful way. Learn to just be, rather than always doing.
  13. Camp under the Stars.
    Camp under the stars
    Experience the wonder of our world, with just canvas separating you from Mother Nature. It puts everything back into perspective, especially when life gets clouded by all the trappings and complexities of the modern world.
  14. Learn to Balance Your Finances.
    Managing finances
    Money can be an asset or a burden, but a lot depends on how you manage it. A few skills in the art of balancing your finances can have a big positive impact on your life.
  15. Wake up Somewhere Unfamiliar.
    Wake up some place unfamiliar
    Enjoy the initial confusion, followed by the delighted feeling of having done something reckless, followed by the reality of “how do I get home?”.
  16. Learn to Say No.
    Learn to say no
    Learning to say “no”, is an important skill and one that can dramatically increase the quality of our lives.
  17. Learn to Be Alone
    Learn to be alone
    Our relationship with ourselves is the most important one of our lives; we won’t spend as much time with anyone else! Learning to enjoy our own company and enjoy being alone is invaluable on so many levels. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
  18. Learn to go Easy on Yourself
    Learn to forgive yourself
    Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
  19. Learn to say what you ‘want’
    I love you to your crush
    Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
  20. Learn to revisit your past
    Revisiting your past
    Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever.
  21. Learn to clean up
    Learn to let go
    Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
  22. Learn when to QUIT
    Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, and there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.

I’ve been able to do a couple of them, how many of them have you done? And did i miss something ? Do mention in the comment section below 😀

Let’s be lovers without love

Let’s watch a movie and argue over which movie we should watch. I’m sure we’ll end up watching both movies, and that will sum up our day together.

Let’s have our morning coffee together. We’ll have a little talk about that nightmare you had last night. I’ll take a sip of my coffee while listening to the story of your nightmare and I’ll tell you that it will be alright. It’s scary but thank god you’re here, you’ll say.

Let’s spend our lazy afternoon together. Maybe i’ll perform and item number or maybe you will play your favorite sport knowing that i am sitting right across the court, writing poems for you.

Let’s play games, be it a racing game or even a game of truth & dare and the loser shall treat the winner to a fancy dinner.

Let’s go on a midnight road trip with no definite destination when most souls are fast asleep. You’ll blast the car speakers with your favorite jams and I will sing out loud, along to the songs with you.

Let’s go camping and I’ll cook for us during the camp because if you were to cook, I’m afraid we’ll be eating nothing but charcoal. Then we’ll watch as the sun sets, and stay up the whole night just to watch the sunrise.

Let’s stay up and talk to each other until 5 in the morning and maybe you’ll tell me why were you mad at your friends for days or why were you afraid to love another soul. I’ll listen, I’ll try my best to stay awake and listen to what you have to say.

Let’s go to the mall. We will enter whichever shop you want and if you happen to like a certain thing from a certain shop, I will buy it for you.

Let’s have a hike on the hill without saying anything to each other. You’ll most probably drag me to the top just so you can tell me how easy it was, and you could do it over and over again.

Let’s act like we came from the same family, like we are hopeless romantics, like we are nothing but the best of friends, like we are one.

Let’s laugh until we cry. Let’s cry until we laugh. Let’s get mad together. Let’s be sad or happy together. Let’s fool around together. Let’s play and tease each other. Let’s do whatever we want, whatever we can.

Let’s do everything together without falling for each other.

Let’s be lovers without love because love is a greed that can’t be filled.

Lets be lovers without love

نماز کی توفیق

وہ اب مکمل سنجیدہ ہو کر سُن رہا تھا۔۔۔۔
“تم نے کلمہ طیبہ پڑھ کر خود ہی تو اللہ سے وعدہ کیا تھا کہ یا اللہ تُو ہی میرا معبود ہے۔۔ میں اب ہمیشہ تیری عبادت کروں گا۔۔ یہ اقرار نامہ بھول گئے ہو کیا؟
اب تم ہی مجھے  بتاؤ کہ میں کس منہ سے اللہ سے کہوں کہ وہ تمہیں نماز کی توفیق دے؟ جبکہ وہ تمہیں پہلے سے ہی توفیق دے چکا ہے۔۔ یعنی تم اذان سن سکتے ہو،، تمہارے پاؤں سلامت ہیں،،  ہاتھ موجود ہیں،، اللہ نے دیکھنے اور چلنے کی قوت بھی دی ہوئی ہے،، جا کر وضو کر سکتے ہو۔۔ تو پھر اور کیا توفیق دے تمہیں؟؟ اب آسمان سے فرشتے تو آنے سے رہے جو تمہیں زبردستی اُٹھا کر مسجد میں چھوڑنے جائیں گے۔”

The best day

The best day of your life
is the one on which
you decide your life is your own.

No apologies or excuses.

No one to lean on,
rely on,
or blame.

The gift is yours.
It is an amazing journey,
and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins.
Don’t spend too much time staring into screens;
drink, kiss, and dance under the moon.

The Best Day

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Be with a Boy Who Travels

Be with a Boy Who TravelsDate a boy who travels. Date a boy who treasures experience over toys, a hand-woven bracelet over a Rolex. Date the boy who scoffs when he hears the words, “vacation,” “all-inclusive” or “resort.” Date a boy who travels because he’s not blinded by a single goal but enlivened by many.

You might find him in a bus stop or an airport store browsing the travel guides — although he “only uses them for reference.”

You’ll know it’s him because when you peek at his computer screen his background will be a scenic splendor of rolling hills, mountains or prayer flags. His Facebook friend count will be over-the-roof and his wall will be plastered with the broken English ‘miss-you’ of friends he met along the way. When he travels he makes lifelong friends in an hour. And although contact with these friends is sporadic and may be far-between his bonds are unmessable and if he wanted he could couch surf the world… again.

Once a traveler gets home people rarely listen to his stories. So listen to him. Allow him to paint a picture that brings you into his world. He might talk fast and miss small details because he’s so excited to be heard. Bask in his enthusiasm. Want it for yourself.

He’ll squeak like an excited toddler when his latest issue of National Geographicarrives in the mail. Then he’ll grow quiet, engrossed, until he finishes his analysis of every photo, every adventure. In his mind he’ll insert himself in these pictures. He’ll pass the issue on to you and grill you about your dreams and competitively ask about the craziest thing you’ve ever done. Tell him. And know that he’ll probably win. And if by chance you win, know that his next lot in life will be to out do you. But then he’ll say, “Maybe we can do it together.”

Date the boy who talks of distant places and whose hands have explored the stone relics of ancient civilizations and whose mind has imagined those hands carving, chiseling, painting the wonders of the world. And when he talks it’s as if he’s reliving it with you. You can almost hear his heart racing. You can almost feel the adrenaline ramped up by the moment. You feel it passing through his synapsis, a feast to his eyes entering through those tiny oracles of experience that we call pupils, digesting rapidly through his veins, manifesting into his nervous system, transforming and altering his worldview like a reverse trauma and finally passing but forever changing the colors of his sight. (Unless he’s Karl Pilkington.) You will want this too.

Date a boy who’s lived out of a backpack because he lives happily with less. A boy who’s traveled has seen poverty and dined with those who live in small shanties with no running water, and yet welcome strangers with greater hospitality than the rich. And because he’s seen this he’s seen how a life without luxury can mean a life fueled by relationships and family rather than a life that fuels fancy cars and ego. He’s experienced different ways of being, respects alternative religions and he looks at the world with the eyes of a five-year-old, curious and hungry. Your dad will be happy too because he’s good with money and knows how to budget.

This boy relishes home; the comfort of a duvet, the safety stirred in a mom-cooked meal, the easy conversation of childhood friends and the immaculate glory of the flush-toilet. Although fiercely independent, he has had time to reflect on himself and his relationships. Despite his wanderlust he knows and appreciates his ties to home. He has had a chance to miss and be missed. Because of this he also knows a thing or two about goodbyes. He knows the overwhelming uncertainty of leaving the comforts of home, the indefinite see-you-laters at the departure gates and yet he fearlessly goes into the unknown because he knows the feeling of return. And that the I’ve-missed-you-hug is the best type of hug in the whole world. He also knows that goodbyes are just prolonged see-you-laters and that ‘hello’ is only as far away as the nearest internet cafe.

Don’t hold onto this boy. Let this boy go and go with him. If you haven’t traveled, he will open your eyes to a world beyond the news and popular perception. He will open your dreams to possibility and reality. He will calm your nerves when you’re about to miss a flight or when your rental blows a flat because he knows the journey is the adventure. He will make light of the unsavory noises you make when you — and you will — get food poisoning. He will make you laugh through the discomfort all while dabbing your forehead with a cold cloth and nursing you with bottled water. He will make you feel like you’re home.

When you see something beautiful he will hold your hand in silence, in awe the history of where his feet stand and the fact that you’re with him.

He will live in every moment with you because this is how he lives his life. He understands that happiness is no more than a string of moments that displace neutrality and he is determined to tie as many of these strings together as he can. He also understands your need to live for yourself and that you have a bucket list of your own. Understand his. Understand that your goals may at some points differ but that independence is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship when it’s mutually respected. You may lose him for a bit but he will always come home bearing a new story and a souvenir he picked up because it reminded him of you, like it was made for you and because he missed you. You might be compelled to do the same. Make sure that independence is on your bucket list and make sure it’s checked. Independence will keep your relationship fresh and exciting and when you’re together again it will forge a bond of unbreakable trust.

He’ll propose when you’ve breached your comfort-zone, whether it is a fear like cliff diving or swimming with sharks or sitting next to the smelly person on an overcrowded bus. It won’t be with a diamond ring but with a token from a native culture or inspired by nature, like the penguin and the pebble.

You will get married somewhere unassumed, surrounded by a select few in a moment constructed to celebrate venturing into the unknown together again. Marry the boy who’s traveled and together you will make the whole world your home. Your honeymoon will not be forgotten to a buffet dinner, but will be remembered in the triumphant photographs at the top of Mount Godwin-Austen and memorialized in the rewarding ache of muscles at the end of a long days hike.

When you’re ready you will have children that have the names of the characters you met on your journeys, the foreign names of people who dug a special place in your heart if only for a few days. Perhaps you will live in another country and your children will learn of language and customs that open their minds from the very start, leaving no room for prejudice.

Marry a boy who travels and he’ll teach your children the beauty of a single stone, the history of the Kalasha tribe and he will instill in them the bravery of possibility. He will explain to them that masking opportunity there is fear. He will teach them to concur it.

And when you’re old you’ll sit with your grandchildren poring over your photo albums and chest of worldly treasures while they too insert themselves into your photographs, sparked by the beauty of the world and inspired by your life in it.

Find a boy who travels because you deserve a life of adventure and possibility. You deserve to live light and embrace simplicity. You deserve to look at life through the eyes of youth and with your arms wide open. Because this is where you will find joy. And better, you will find joy together. And if you can’t find him, travel. Go. Embrace it. Explore the world for yourself because dreams are the stuff reality is made from.

Be with a Boy Who Travels-Pano

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Inspired by the work of Charles Warnke (You Should Date An Illiterate Girl) and Rosemarie Urquico (Date A Girl Who Reads).

Originally published on Where Are My Heels.